Perception is everything and colors everything we look at. People will have different perceptions of the same event. Which ones are right?? They are all right, because our perception of the world is what is true for us. However, you can change your perception from one that is negative and painful, to one that is positive and blessed.
The most difficult change of perception came for me when my mother passed. My immediate reaction was pain and grief. I felt abandon by God, how could he take her from me. However, the nurse in the room with us said, "you know your mother was a saint, and you know she is in good hands." My whole world shifted at that stage. Yes, she is in a good place. She has only shifted out of a form that no longer served her.
Many people find my attitude disrespectful. They feel that I should grieve for the rest of my life for her, but how could I wish her back to her body. What would ever possess me to make me think that she would be better off here? The reason I was grieving was strictly my own selfishness, as I really do miss her, but certainly not enough to wish her back to this life. On All Hallows Eve we celebrate her life, and remember the good time, and bad times, but it is always a positive perception. I sometime think I hear her speak to me, and it is always a happy thought. I know we will meet again.
Namaste
