Vishuddha—Throat Chakra Archetype—the Silent Child

The person with this archetype has not had positive feedback when they voiced their needs.  These individuals have difficulty with saying anything, let alone voicing their needs or opinions.  Their need to express anger, hurt and frustration has been suppressed, and they are now afraid to express any feelings or opinions.  They bottle emotions up inside, and it may be channeled into creative areas, but often will lie there and fester resulting in depression.  These emotions being driven inside may even result in physical ailments.  The emotions will come out somehow, whether through depression, physical ailment or violence to themselves and others.  The silent child is accustomed to hiding feelings. When a person locks up emotions they fester, and personal violence may be the only way they can feel anything; they become a self mutilator.

The silent child will suffer without ever expressing pain or hurt.  They may have been abused, and scared into silence.  Often as they grow older, they will dampen their pain with drugs, alcohol, tobacco and food. 

The throat chakra is very delicate. When a silent child suppresses their vivacity and life force, the throat chakra and all other chakras implode with the energy which is meant to be expressed.  The throat gets closed off, and blocks the other chakras. 

The silent child will hold back expressions of feelings for fear of rejection or punishment.  Their fear will keep them silent rather than face the need to express/voice anger, pain or frustration.  This archetype will live in silence, feeling that those around them do not care how they feel.  The Silent Child will often lie to cover up and protect itself and feel even worse because of the resulting loss of integrity.  It can take years of care and gentle persuasion to get the silent child to express itself.

If years of suppression have occurred, the throat will become the focal point for all types of throat related dis-ease.  From tight throat and neck muscles to the chronic sore throats, even mouth and jaw related problems.  Some silent children will try to express themselves through acting, singing or dance to act out their suppressed feelings.  

Self-pity is often the result of not being listened to or being believed.  The Silent Child needs to express its inner reality and communicate its sensitivity to find a positive release for itself.  This is how to transform the pain.

How to Transform the Silent Child

All of the exercises and meditations in the Vishuddha Throat Chakra series will help transform the silent child. Here are some other things to try.

To heal this archetype we have to be willing to express our feelings even in the face of rejection or disapproval.  As Susan Sarandon said, “Speak your truth, even if your voice shakes.” Sorry for the political connotation, but the circumstance certainly is one in which it would take courage to speak a truth which is not held by anyone else in the room. This can be such a daunting feat.  However, if this chakra is closed, it will be impossible to balance the other chakras.  These exercises will help transform the silent child into the communicator.

Do you remember a time when you wanted to say something but were unable to find the words?  How did that feel, what were your feelings then?  Were you afraid of being laughed at, ignored, not recognized, or not listened to?  Did you remain quiet, but harbor resentment?

Visualize that situation and allow yourself to say the things that you wanted to say then.  You may realize that your thoughts had value…..  Realizing this may evoke feelings of sadness or anger at not having been listened to.  Let those feelings come to the surface, and give yourself the opportunity to experience them.  Let go of any feelings of humiliation or fear which you associate with them.

Repeat this affirmation, “I am heard. I am verbalization at its finest!”  Integrate the truth of this into you consciousness.  If someone does not hear what you have to say, you have to realize that it has nothing to do with you; they just haven’t learned to listen, or they may not be ready to hear what you have to say.  Seek out people who want to know what you want to share.  Remember, what you have to share is important to others as well as yourself.

Keep a journal of your thoughts and ideas.  You may be surprised at the quality of your thoughts about yourself and others.  You will also notice the negative attitudes and ideas that you have developed over the years which block you road to happiness.  This can be your way of giving yourself a voice and having the place to be heard.

Try a blog.  Place your thoughts and opinions on this.  Let others choose to see and read your truths.  This can be done in total anonymity, but remember, not all feedback may be positive.  Just remember, some of these people just aren’t ready to hear your truth.  They are entitled to their opinions, but you are also entitled to yours.   Put your thoughts out there!  Be heard!

I am listening

I am verbalizing

I am that I am

I hope you enjoy.

Namaste